The X Factor: The sex factor

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I was watching "Mad Men" last night (if you're in advertising or marketing and aren't watching, start tuning in) and I came up with a concept that may be prescient: sex doesn't sell.

What? Am I crazy? "Sex sells" is one of the most pervasive memes in advertising. Hike up a women's skirt, show some cleavage, throw in a volleyball and voila, beer commercial. It even seems as though the phrase is used by clients and account people everywhere simply as a way to justify the usage of scantily clad women in advertising. But why do they do this? Because the subtlety of what is happening in that ad is lost on them.

What's the real draw in a campaign that uses sexual imagery? It is the feeling you get from the advertisement that sells the product -- not the sex itself. The subtlety, nuance and innuendo; the allure. Tying the idea of sex in with a product works very well in the good ol' US of A because we are an amazingly sexually repressed nation.

Don’t think so? Well, then, let me venture into territory that is going to make you feel a little uncomfortable, a little dirty, a little naughty... a frank discussion of your sexual desires...

You didn't think I would go there, did you? And yet, you stuck around to read more, just in case. That, my friends, is advertising: the ability to manipulate.

It's ok, though. You're alone. No one is watching you. And that, my new-found frustrated, annoyed friends, is the beauty of the internet (as well as one of its most powerful assets) -- the anonymity of consumption. Our sessions are private -- well at least from the standpoint of the initial consumption (it's all being tracked somewhere, but not having to be with other individuals in-person during consumption somehow opens us up to permissiveness). Online, we will consume, take in and absorb that which would be considered offensive in polite company. It is the duality of our public and private selves.

What is permissible online is not permissible in other media because those media are often consumed communally. Reading the paper on the train or bus or even at breakfast in front of your wife or husband; watching football at a bar, "Dexter" with friends (now that is one sadistic program) or reading a magazine on the subway -- these are all communal environments.

For example, I ran across a banner ad for a hotel; I won't say which one, but let's just say the ad suggested some uses for their hotel rooms as a couple's getaway and what great beds they had... complete with very suggestive imagery. Needless to say, I glanced left and right when it came up, and I was at home alone. I was not on a "sex" site. Just a mundane cooking blog in the "recipes for dates" section.

I thought for a second. Could I imagine that ad on TV for that brand? I think not. The calls from irate mothers "protecting" their children from the smut on TV would be monstrous. The far right machine would move into action.

A little while ago I wrote on why TV is more potent for branding. Now I'll tell you an advantage online advertising has: singular consumption permissiveness to push boundaries.

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Alexa Cushing
Alexa Cushing August 20, 2008 at 1:45 PM

Hello Sean,

A colleague sent me your dead-on insights concerning the concept of singular consumption behavior pushing the boundaries of permissiveness on the Internet.

I quoted you liberally in one of my blogs:
Sweet Revenge
www.sweetrevenge.tumblr.com

Let me know if that's a problem . . . especially after reading about your "hacking" days. I don't want you to be pissed at me; I'll remove your quotes at once.

My other self has marketed and branded some of the biggest names in sexy female products. This is my "ism" when it comes to sex:

What women say and what we do, are two very different actions.

The Internet frees us to wander without borders. And it's most interesting where we travel without fences in our minds.

Women say they detest pornography and only 4% did search for "porn" in 2006.

Women of all ages comprised 56% of the searches for "teen sex". Perhaps we are just concerned about the wellbeing of children?

Women made 64% of the 30 million searches for "adult dating". Maybe we were trying to find unfaithful husbands or boyfriends? Also 50% of sex chats? Perhaps we were trying to talk to our partners after dinner?

As you wrote so accurately: Americans are a sexually repressed group of people.

The timing of your thoughts was so perfect for me, because a couple hours earlier, I watched significant numbers of East Coast people (presumably mostly men right now. Content for women is nonexistent, unless you're gay or bisexual) log on to BuzzNoir between 5 and 6am.

About 9 am I noticed they were still with me, attached to BuzzNoir. I speak metaphorically. I said: "wow, they left their computer open and went to work, w/o logging out." Must be single guys.

Then this morning, I said: "maybe we're travelling on their iPhones." How's that for an emotional relationship. Talk about personal intimacy between a brand and its user.

Several men have told me how much they like my approach over at BuzzNoirBabes.tumblr.com. They like the use of pink and beautiful imagery. Men care about the pink background of a Euro Babe blog? They tell me that it is "calming?" A p--- blog is "calming?"

My entire project is about emotional branding and psychological connection. It's also about removing guilt. You describe how the Internet gives us permission to explore.

I'm sensing that being a woman, and an accomplished and savvy one at that, could create a positive connection with users of Noir (ok, p---) that even I didn't anticipate. I refuse to make men feel guilty over their use of p---.

Another important topic is how we define intimacy in this age of the Internet. What is love these days? Can you love someone you never met, except in a chat room or cam sex session? Those emails sure read like love letters to me.

So much to learn and so little time. Humans never cease to amaze me -- in a wonderful way, I should add.

Your insights are 110% accurate, Sean. Thanks for letting me share my reaction.

Again, let me know if you have any problem with my quoting you so liberally. I prefer to let people speak in their own words, rather than my repackaging them to improve our Google ranking.

Sean X
Sean X August 19, 2008 at 4:21 PM

Zero Cool... I should also be posting with one of my old handles, but alas my hacking and phreaking days are long gone. ;)

It's not far fetched to think of advertising as a relationship. Hell, sometimes it's even a healthy relationship. But what drives good relationships is the feelings that well up in them, in their bodies, when they think of the other person or in this case, your brand.

Dove's Real Beauty campaign is a phenomenal departure from the shallow consumerism we all face, but although it is not "objectifying" women as I stated, you are correct in that, it is USING them to sell the product.

It is a brilliant campaign, one of the best in year's, which allows women to connect with the Dove brand, and it is true to the brand. Ax Body Spray could not take such a positioning, but, in the end, it is about selling a product.

I wish more companies looked at their relationships with their consumers as long term investments. Most just parry to the latest trend or meme.

Zero Cool
Zero Cool August 19, 2008 at 11:28 AM

How far fetched is it to think of advertising as a relationship?

Good relationships: Healthy, each party is benefiting equally from the relationship - by investing time, and money into the relationship, each member gets in return various benefits.

In the case of advertising - we'll compare it to the communication in the relationship. If the communication is unclear, lucrative, or dishonest discrepancies eventually surface as one side gets shorted. Too much manipulation leads to divorce.

I do think that Dove's real beauty campaign is working psychologically on a subconscious level - but I don't think it's objectifying women. Maybe 'real' beauty is a sense of worth and confidence from within that Dove wants to associate with their brand and the women who use it. It's added value to be clean and feel good - but buying soap and being clean is a necessity so both parties are benefiting.

I saw an ad the other day for diamonds that read something like 'you know it's not really the thought that counts to her' with chocolate next to the diamonds. I'm guessing couples buying into that probably fall into the +/-50% of Americans who get divorced before 3 years.

If what we really want for our clients is measurable results over time lets prove that it's not the cost of the dinner that makes the date -