The X Factor: The sex factor

Evoking an emotion is the important takeaway here. Sex is just one tool we use to do that. Pity, shame, guilt, anger and other emotions also work. Don't believe me? Why do you think hunger commercials have a small child wandering barefoot with a swollen belly and flies around their eyes? It evokes guilt, and anger that we live in world where such things still exist. It is also their reality, and that is even more impactful. Why? Truth.

Truth is the powerful ally in all these emotions; it's that which resonates with some emotional construct in your body that has been societally programmed.

Look, people are intelligent beings. We often know we are being manipulated. The strange thing is, often, we don't care. Most of us live a life of repetitive tasks. Over and over. We are willing to be manipulated if that manipulation makes us feel a little better about ourselves. Prime example. Dove Soap. The Real Beauty campaign by Dove is one of the most powerful statements in advertising against the obsession our culture has with beauty. They have tapped into our cynicism. Now, what would really be nice is if Dove was not owned by the same company that markets Axe Body Spray. The reality is each of these campaigns is just as manipulative as the other. The are both designed to make people feel good about themselves. Empowered. Is either campaign better or worse? In my opinion, nope. Same thing. They are both objectifying women and using them -- just in different ways.

In the end, they're just designed to sell a product. That's all. Some products are more helpful than others. But all advertising is manipulation. Just because you have a great product doesn't absolve you from the fact that your ads are designed to manipulate people into buying your product. You may be manipulating them with truth, but it is never the whole truth now is it?

The emotional connection to your consumer is what truly sells, not the sex in and of itself. Start realizing what the advertising is doing to people and it won't matter whether or not you have a half-naked, tanned, oiled goddess in a bathing suit in your ad. It's the construct of that ad, the subtleties of its expression, where the emotional resonance often lies. It's why the creatives throw themselves on swords all the time to promote the slightest change. The account team and the client often just do not see the difference. They are too close to their product. The account person's job is to connect with the client. It's the creative person's job is to connect with the consumer.

Here are some tips to start you on your way to emotional tapping.

1. Start getting a little more uncomfortable about your online advertising. The permissiveness of singular consumption methods of advertising allows you to push boundaries once considered Taboo. The PR side may take a hit, but any chances you take likely won't be considered "risky" from the legal standpoint. Let your lawyers be concerned about potential lawsuits. You should be concerned about how the consumers connect with your product.

2. Tap into the emotional benefit of the product, not the product benefit you think you want to market. Those extra cup-holders that fit juice-boxes may sell more mini-vans than that extra 20 horsepower. Why? Sanity for that driver transporting urchins in back. Passing someone doing 120 is of little consequence to them.

3. Take the filters off your guerilla marketing and social networking efforts. Those media demand truth. If you do not give it to consumers there, your programs will never gain the emotional resonance, which is what drives those consumers to both pass on and defend that information.

4. Relax and test it. The speed of which things can go up online, and be pulled down is fast. Utilize that to see what resonates with your consumers emotions. Which ones are hitting. And develop a metric to measure it that 

Look, this is not rocket science, and the dynamics of consumer intent are often complex and subtle. Tap into the consumers emotions. Sex sells, but only if you know how to use it.

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Sean X Cummings runs SXC Marketing, an advertising and marketing consultancy specializing in helping brands, agencies and vendors connect with their consumers more effectively.

 

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Alexa Cushing
Alexa Cushing August 20, 2008 at 1:45 PM

Hello Sean,

A colleague sent me your dead-on insights concerning the concept of singular consumption behavior pushing the boundaries of permissiveness on the Internet.

I quoted you liberally in one of my blogs:
Sweet Revenge
www.sweetrevenge.tumblr.com

Let me know if that's a problem . . . especially after reading about your "hacking" days. I don't want you to be pissed at me; I'll remove your quotes at once.

My other self has marketed and branded some of the biggest names in sexy female products. This is my "ism" when it comes to sex:

What women say and what we do, are two very different actions.

The Internet frees us to wander without borders. And it's most interesting where we travel without fences in our minds.

Women say they detest pornography and only 4% did search for "porn" in 2006.

Women of all ages comprised 56% of the searches for "teen sex". Perhaps we are just concerned about the wellbeing of children?

Women made 64% of the 30 million searches for "adult dating". Maybe we were trying to find unfaithful husbands or boyfriends? Also 50% of sex chats? Perhaps we were trying to talk to our partners after dinner?

As you wrote so accurately: Americans are a sexually repressed group of people.

The timing of your thoughts was so perfect for me, because a couple hours earlier, I watched significant numbers of East Coast people (presumably mostly men right now. Content for women is nonexistent, unless you're gay or bisexual) log on to BuzzNoir between 5 and 6am.

About 9 am I noticed they were still with me, attached to BuzzNoir. I speak metaphorically. I said: "wow, they left their computer open and went to work, w/o logging out." Must be single guys.

Then this morning, I said: "maybe we're travelling on their iPhones." How's that for an emotional relationship. Talk about personal intimacy between a brand and its user.

Several men have told me how much they like my approach over at BuzzNoirBabes.tumblr.com. They like the use of pink and beautiful imagery. Men care about the pink background of a Euro Babe blog? They tell me that it is "calming?" A p--- blog is "calming?"

My entire project is about emotional branding and psychological connection. It's also about removing guilt. You describe how the Internet gives us permission to explore.

I'm sensing that being a woman, and an accomplished and savvy one at that, could create a positive connection with users of Noir (ok, p---) that even I didn't anticipate. I refuse to make men feel guilty over their use of p---.

Another important topic is how we define intimacy in this age of the Internet. What is love these days? Can you love someone you never met, except in a chat room or cam sex session? Those emails sure read like love letters to me.

So much to learn and so little time. Humans never cease to amaze me -- in a wonderful way, I should add.

Your insights are 110% accurate, Sean. Thanks for letting me share my reaction.

Again, let me know if you have any problem with my quoting you so liberally. I prefer to let people speak in their own words, rather than my repackaging them to improve our Google ranking.

Sean X Cummings
Sean X Cummings August 19, 2008 at 4:21 PM

Zero Cool... I should also be posting with one of my old handles, but alas my hacking and phreaking days are long gone. ;)

It's not far fetched to think of advertising as a relationship. Hell, sometimes it's even a healthy relationship. But what drives good relationships is the feelings that well up in them, in their bodies, when they think of the other person or in this case, your brand.

Dove's Real Beauty campaign is a phenomenal departure from the shallow consumerism we all face, but although it is not "objectifying" women as I stated, you are correct in that, it is USING them to sell the product.

It is a brilliant campaign, one of the best in year's, which allows women to connect with the Dove brand, and it is true to the brand. Ax Body Spray could not take such a positioning, but, in the end, it is about selling a product.

I wish more companies looked at their relationships with their consumers as long term investments. Most just parry to the latest trend or meme.

Zero Cool
Zero Cool August 19, 2008 at 11:28 AM

How far fetched is it to think of advertising as a relationship?

Good relationships: Healthy, each party is benefiting equally from the relationship - by investing time, and money into the relationship, each member gets in return various benefits.

In the case of advertising - we'll compare it to the communication in the relationship. If the communication is unclear, lucrative, or dishonest discrepancies eventually surface as one side gets shorted. Too much manipulation leads to divorce.

I do think that Dove's real beauty campaign is working psychologically on a subconscious level - but I don't think it's objectifying women. Maybe 'real' beauty is a sense of worth and confidence from within that Dove wants to associate with their brand and the women who use it. It's added value to be clean and feel good - but buying soap and being clean is a necessity so both parties are benefiting.

I saw an ad the other day for diamonds that read something like 'you know it's not really the thought that counts to her' with chocolate next to the diamonds. I'm guessing couples buying into that probably fall into the +/-50% of Americans who get divorced before 3 years.

If what we really want for our clients is measurable results over time lets prove that it's not the cost of the dinner that makes the date -